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Members Lounge / Re: Sissy Corner. All things sissy
« Last post by Jackie on January 26, 2026, 05:10:10 pm »My little sissy sub.
Recent Posts
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Latex / Sissy latex maid
« Last post by Jackie on January 26, 2026, 04:57:49 pm »Here she is, waiting patiently in the sex shop. Cane in hand waiting to serve and be punished.
Shop is her4her.co.uk
Shop is her4her.co.uk
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BDSM / Mummification
« Last post by Jackie on January 26, 2026, 04:50:03 pm »Just making the most of some renovations. Had the ladder, had the sub.
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Members Lounge / Sissy Corner. All things sissy
« Last post by Jackie on January 26, 2026, 04:31:31 pm »here is a place for sissies to hang out, chat and share pictures. No porn please while we do not use age verification.
Meet Jess. When we get enough members he will be outed on here.
Meet Jess. When we get enough members he will be outed on here.
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Things you need to know / How to Use a Dildo with a Partner
« Last post by Jackie on January 14, 2026, 01:20:05 pm »How to Use a Dildo with a Partner
Exploring new ways to connect and experience pleasure together can be both exciting and rewarding. One popular option many couples are curious about is using a dildo as part of their intimate time. With so many styles, sizes, and materials available, a dildo can be a versatile and enjoyable addition to partnered play.
If you are wondering how to use a dildo with a partner in a way that feels comfortable, fun, and mutually satisfying, this guide is designed to walk you through the basics with clarity and ease.
Why Use a Dildo Together?
Dildos have been used for centuries as tools for pleasure and exploration. Today, many couples enjoy them as a way to:
Add variety to their intimacy
Discover new sensations together
Enhance communication about desires and boundaries
Focus on shared pleasure rather than performance
The goal is not to replace a partner, but to complement intimacy and create new experiences together.
Step 1: Choosing the Right Dildo
Selecting a dildo that works for both of you sets the tone for a positive experience.
Size and Comfort
Talk openly about size preferences before purchasing. Bigger is not better if it causes discomfort. Choose something that feels approachable and aligns with both partners’ comfort levels.
Material Matters
Common materials include:
Silicone: Soft, flexible, and body-safe
Glass or metal: Smooth, firm, and great for temperature play
Pick a material that feels appealing and easy to clean.
Shape and Texture
Some dildos are smooth and simple, while others have curves or textures. If you are new to using toys together, simpler designs are often a good starting point.
Suction Cup Options
A dildo with a suction cup base allows for hands-free use and opens up more positioning possibilities, which many couples find fun and convenient.
Step 2: Preparing for the Experience
A little preparation can make a big difference.
Talk First
Before using a dildo together, discuss:
What you are curious about
Any concerns or boundaries
How you will communicate during the experience
Open communication helps everyone feel relaxed and respected.
Use Plenty of Lubricant
Lubrication improves comfort and sensation. A water-based lubricant is a safe, versatile option for most toys.
Keep It Clean
Wash the dildo before and after use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Clean toys are safer and more enjoyable to use.
Respect Consent at All Times
Either partner should feel free to pause or stop at any point. Consent is ongoing, and comfort always comes first.
Step 3: Enjoying the Experience Together
Once you are ready, focus on connection and exploration rather than rushing.
Start with Foreplay
Begin with kissing, touching, and teasing. This helps build arousal and makes using the dildo feel more natural and enjoyable.
Explore Together
Use the dildo to explore different areas and sensations at a relaxed pace. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal feedback from your partner.
Combine Sensations
The dildo can be used alongside other forms of touch, oral stimulation, or additional toys if both partners are comfortable. Layering sensations often enhances pleasure.
Get Creative
Some couples enjoy:
Trying new positions
Adding light role play
Using a mirror for visual stimulation
Experimenting with warm or cool temperatures (always test first)
There is no “right” way—only what feels good for both of you.
Common Questions
Is it normal to feel nervous at first?
Yes. Trying something new can feel awkward initially. Talking openly helps ease nerves.
Can using a dildo bring us closer?
Many couples find that it improves communication, trust, and emotional intimacy.
What if one of us feels uncomfortable?
Stop immediately and talk about it. Comfort and consent are non-negotiable.
Do dildos have to involve penetration?
Not at all. Many are used for external stimulation only.
How do we keep this private?
Store your toy discreetly and treat it as part of your shared, private experience.
Final Thoughts
Using a dildo with a partner can be a positive and enjoyable way to explore intimacy together when approached with openness, respect, and curiosity. Focus on communication, go at your own pace, and prioritize each other’s comfort and pleasure.
With the right mindset and preparation, this shared experience can strengthen your connection and introduce exciting new sensations—together.
A wide range of dildos ca nbe found on the her4her website HERE
Exploring new ways to connect and experience pleasure together can be both exciting and rewarding. One popular option many couples are curious about is using a dildo as part of their intimate time. With so many styles, sizes, and materials available, a dildo can be a versatile and enjoyable addition to partnered play.
If you are wondering how to use a dildo with a partner in a way that feels comfortable, fun, and mutually satisfying, this guide is designed to walk you through the basics with clarity and ease.
Why Use a Dildo Together?
Dildos have been used for centuries as tools for pleasure and exploration. Today, many couples enjoy them as a way to:
Add variety to their intimacy
Discover new sensations together
Enhance communication about desires and boundaries
Focus on shared pleasure rather than performance
The goal is not to replace a partner, but to complement intimacy and create new experiences together.
Step 1: Choosing the Right Dildo
Selecting a dildo that works for both of you sets the tone for a positive experience.
Size and Comfort
Talk openly about size preferences before purchasing. Bigger is not better if it causes discomfort. Choose something that feels approachable and aligns with both partners’ comfort levels.
Material Matters
Common materials include:
Silicone: Soft, flexible, and body-safe
Glass or metal: Smooth, firm, and great for temperature play
Pick a material that feels appealing and easy to clean.
Shape and Texture
Some dildos are smooth and simple, while others have curves or textures. If you are new to using toys together, simpler designs are often a good starting point.
Suction Cup Options
A dildo with a suction cup base allows for hands-free use and opens up more positioning possibilities, which many couples find fun and convenient.
Step 2: Preparing for the Experience
A little preparation can make a big difference.
Talk First
Before using a dildo together, discuss:
What you are curious about
Any concerns or boundaries
How you will communicate during the experience
Open communication helps everyone feel relaxed and respected.
Use Plenty of Lubricant
Lubrication improves comfort and sensation. A water-based lubricant is a safe, versatile option for most toys.
Keep It Clean
Wash the dildo before and after use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Clean toys are safer and more enjoyable to use.
Respect Consent at All Times
Either partner should feel free to pause or stop at any point. Consent is ongoing, and comfort always comes first.
Step 3: Enjoying the Experience Together
Once you are ready, focus on connection and exploration rather than rushing.
Start with Foreplay
Begin with kissing, touching, and teasing. This helps build arousal and makes using the dildo feel more natural and enjoyable.
Explore Together
Use the dildo to explore different areas and sensations at a relaxed pace. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal feedback from your partner.
Combine Sensations
The dildo can be used alongside other forms of touch, oral stimulation, or additional toys if both partners are comfortable. Layering sensations often enhances pleasure.
Get Creative
Some couples enjoy:
Trying new positions
Adding light role play
Using a mirror for visual stimulation
Experimenting with warm or cool temperatures (always test first)
There is no “right” way—only what feels good for both of you.
Common Questions
Is it normal to feel nervous at first?
Yes. Trying something new can feel awkward initially. Talking openly helps ease nerves.
Can using a dildo bring us closer?
Many couples find that it improves communication, trust, and emotional intimacy.
What if one of us feels uncomfortable?
Stop immediately and talk about it. Comfort and consent are non-negotiable.
Do dildos have to involve penetration?
Not at all. Many are used for external stimulation only.
How do we keep this private?
Store your toy discreetly and treat it as part of your shared, private experience.
Final Thoughts
Using a dildo with a partner can be a positive and enjoyable way to explore intimacy together when approached with openness, respect, and curiosity. Focus on communication, go at your own pace, and prioritize each other’s comfort and pleasure.
With the right mindset and preparation, this shared experience can strengthen your connection and introduce exciting new sensations—together.
A wide range of dildos ca nbe found on the her4her website HERE
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New Members / Please read these rules
« Last post by Jackie on January 10, 2026, 06:37:49 pm »We really want this place to be friendly and fun, without too many stupid rules. All we ask is that you respect all other members at all times and do not post pornographic images.
Rules will be updated if and when we need to but let’s hope not
Rules will be updated if and when we need to but let’s hope not
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Members Lounge / 3D Printing
« Last post by Jackie on January 10, 2026, 06:28:58 pm »Both me and hubby like to print things in 3D. It started as a bit of fun but is a bit obsessive now. I love to browse thingiverse for little things to print.
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Things you need to know / Kink or Fetish
« Last post by Jackie on January 10, 2026, 02:22:06 pm »What Is a Kink?
A kink is a sexual interest, behavior, or practice that falls outside what is traditionally considered “conventional” sexual activity. While once viewed as taboo, many kinks are now widely practiced and increasingly accepted. Kinks can vary greatly in form and intensity and may include activities such as role-playing, power exchange, sensory play, or other consensual dynamics. Many people connect with others who share similar interests through kink-focused communities, such as those centered around BDSM.
What Is a Fetish?
A fetish is a specific focus—such as an object, body part, material, or behavior—that is necessary for a person to experience sexual arousal or satisfaction. Unlike kinks, which may enhance sexual enjoyment, a fetish is often essential for arousal. Fetishes can involve a wide range of elements, from particular materials (such as latex) to specific body parts. Without the fetish object or behavior, a person with a fetish may find sexual arousal difficult or impossible.
Common Examples of Kinks
“Kinky” generally refers to sexual interests that fall outside mainstream sexual practices. Below are some commonly recognized kinks:
1. BDSM
BDSM is an umbrella term encompassing several related dynamics that involve consensual power exchange. It includes:
Bondage and Discipline (B/D)
Dominance and Submission (D/s)
Sadism and Masochism (S/M)
BDSM activities may involve restraint, control, role-defined authority, or consensual physical sensations. Participants typically establish clear boundaries, consent agreements, and safe words to ensure safety and mutual respect.
2. Cuckolding
Cuckolding involves one partner deriving arousal from the idea or reality of their partner engaging sexually with others. This may include discussion, observation, or consensual storytelling, depending on the couple’s boundaries.
3. Exhibitionism
Exhibitionism refers to sexual arousal that comes from being seen by others during sexual activity. It is distinct from voyeurism, which involves arousal from watching others.
4. Impact Play
Impact play includes consensual activities that involve striking the body, such as spanking or using specific implements. Because this can carry physical risk, clear communication, consent, and aftercare are essential components.
5. Role-Play
Role-playing involves partners adopting characters or scenarios during sexual activity. These roles may be fictional, realistic, or imaginative and are often used to explore fantasies in a controlled and consensual way.
Common Examples of Fetishes
A fetish typically involves a specific requirement for sexual arousal. Some commonly recognized fetishes include:
1. Bondage
Bondage involves restraining a partner using items such as ropes, cuffs, or other devices. While bondage can function as a kink for some, it may also be a fetish if it is required for arousal.
2. Electrostimulation
This fetish involves sexual arousal from mild electrical sensations. Specialized equipment designed for safety is typically used to minimize risk.
3. Foot Fetish
A foot fetish involves sexual arousal linked to feet or related features, such as toes, footwear, or textures. Arousal may occur through visual, tactile, or imaginative interaction.
4. Nylon Fetish
This fetish centers on sexual arousal associated with wearing or seeing others wear nylon materials, such as stockings or hosiery.
5. Pregnancy Fetish
Pregnancy fetishism involves sexual attraction to pregnancy-related features, such as a pregnant body or lactation. As with all fetishes, consent and respect are essential.
Key Differences Between a Kink and a Fetish
While kinks and fetishes can overlap, the primary distinction lies in necessity:
Kinks enhance sexual experiences but are not required for arousal.
Fetishes are essential for sexual arousal or satisfaction.
Additionally, fetishes often focus on a specific object or body part, whereas kinks describe broader behaviors or dynamics.
Final Considerations
Whether someone identifies with a kink, a fetish, or a particular preference, open communication with partners is critical. Discussing desires, limits, and expectations helps ensure mutual understanding and consent. While social stigma may still exist around certain interests, sexual well-being depends on safety, respect, and informed participation.
If questions or concerns arise around sexual interests or satisfaction, speaking with a qualified sex educator or therapist can be a valuable and supportive resource.
A kink is a sexual interest, behavior, or practice that falls outside what is traditionally considered “conventional” sexual activity. While once viewed as taboo, many kinks are now widely practiced and increasingly accepted. Kinks can vary greatly in form and intensity and may include activities such as role-playing, power exchange, sensory play, or other consensual dynamics. Many people connect with others who share similar interests through kink-focused communities, such as those centered around BDSM.
What Is a Fetish?
A fetish is a specific focus—such as an object, body part, material, or behavior—that is necessary for a person to experience sexual arousal or satisfaction. Unlike kinks, which may enhance sexual enjoyment, a fetish is often essential for arousal. Fetishes can involve a wide range of elements, from particular materials (such as latex) to specific body parts. Without the fetish object or behavior, a person with a fetish may find sexual arousal difficult or impossible.
Common Examples of Kinks
“Kinky” generally refers to sexual interests that fall outside mainstream sexual practices. Below are some commonly recognized kinks:
1. BDSM
BDSM is an umbrella term encompassing several related dynamics that involve consensual power exchange. It includes:
Bondage and Discipline (B/D)
Dominance and Submission (D/s)
Sadism and Masochism (S/M)
BDSM activities may involve restraint, control, role-defined authority, or consensual physical sensations. Participants typically establish clear boundaries, consent agreements, and safe words to ensure safety and mutual respect.
2. Cuckolding
Cuckolding involves one partner deriving arousal from the idea or reality of their partner engaging sexually with others. This may include discussion, observation, or consensual storytelling, depending on the couple’s boundaries.
3. Exhibitionism
Exhibitionism refers to sexual arousal that comes from being seen by others during sexual activity. It is distinct from voyeurism, which involves arousal from watching others.
4. Impact Play
Impact play includes consensual activities that involve striking the body, such as spanking or using specific implements. Because this can carry physical risk, clear communication, consent, and aftercare are essential components.
5. Role-Play
Role-playing involves partners adopting characters or scenarios during sexual activity. These roles may be fictional, realistic, or imaginative and are often used to explore fantasies in a controlled and consensual way.
Common Examples of Fetishes
A fetish typically involves a specific requirement for sexual arousal. Some commonly recognized fetishes include:
1. Bondage
Bondage involves restraining a partner using items such as ropes, cuffs, or other devices. While bondage can function as a kink for some, it may also be a fetish if it is required for arousal.
2. Electrostimulation
This fetish involves sexual arousal from mild electrical sensations. Specialized equipment designed for safety is typically used to minimize risk.
3. Foot Fetish
A foot fetish involves sexual arousal linked to feet or related features, such as toes, footwear, or textures. Arousal may occur through visual, tactile, or imaginative interaction.
4. Nylon Fetish
This fetish centers on sexual arousal associated with wearing or seeing others wear nylon materials, such as stockings or hosiery.
5. Pregnancy Fetish
Pregnancy fetishism involves sexual attraction to pregnancy-related features, such as a pregnant body or lactation. As with all fetishes, consent and respect are essential.
Key Differences Between a Kink and a Fetish
While kinks and fetishes can overlap, the primary distinction lies in necessity:
Kinks enhance sexual experiences but are not required for arousal.
Fetishes are essential for sexual arousal or satisfaction.
Additionally, fetishes often focus on a specific object or body part, whereas kinks describe broader behaviors or dynamics.
Final Considerations
Whether someone identifies with a kink, a fetish, or a particular preference, open communication with partners is critical. Discussing desires, limits, and expectations helps ensure mutual understanding and consent. While social stigma may still exist around certain interests, sexual well-being depends on safety, respect, and informed participation.
If questions or concerns arise around sexual interests or satisfaction, speaking with a qualified sex educator or therapist can be a valuable and supportive resource.
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Things you need to know / What to do before having anal sex?
« Last post by Jackie on January 10, 2026, 02:07:48 pm »What to do before having anal sex?
Thinking about exploring the world of anal sex? Approaching this intimate experience with care, open communication, and the right information can make all the difference. Anal sex can be enjoyable and rewarding for many people, especially when both partners feel prepared and comfortable. In this guide, we’ll walk through the key things to consider before getting started. Whether you’re completely new or simply looking to build on what you already know, you’ll find helpful insights to support a safe and enjoyable experience..
Anal sex
Understanding the Basics
Before we dive into the details of what to consider before trying anal sex, let’s first cover a few basics to set the stage.
What Is Anal Sex?
Anal sex involves stimulation or penetration of the anus using a penis, finger, sex toy, or other object for pleasure. It’s an intimate activity enjoyed by people of all genders and sexual orientations.
Why Do People Explore Anal Sex?
People try anal sex for many reasons—curiosity, pleasure, or simply wanting to explore something new with a partner. Whatever the reason, having open and honest conversations about expectations and comfort levels is essential.
________________________________________
Preparing for Anal Sex: What You Should Know
Now that we’ve covered the basics, let’s walk through some helpful steps to consider before trying anal sex.
1. Open Communication
Talking openly with your partner is one of the most important parts of any sexual experience. Share your interests, boundaries, and any concerns you may have. Consent and comfort should always be mutual.
Communication is the key to any healthy sexual relationship. Discussing your desires and boundaries can lead to a more satisfying experience.
2. Learn the Basics
Having the right information can help you feel more confident and relaxed. Take time to learn about anatomy, potential risks, and best practices so you know what to expect and how to stay safe.
3. Choose a Partner You Trust
Feeling safe and supported matters. A patient, understanding partner makes it easier to communicate openly and enjoy the experience together.
4. Have the Right Supplies Ready
Using plenty of water-based lubricant and condoms can make anal sex more comfortable and help reduce the risk of irritation or infection.
5. Focus on Hygiene
Good hygiene can help you feel more at ease. A shower and gentle cleaning with warm water is usually enough. If you choose to use an anal douche, do so gently and avoid harsh products that can upset the body’s natural balance.
6. Take It Slow
Going slowly helps the body adjust. Starting with a finger or small toy allows muscles to relax and makes the experience more comfortable.
7. Use Plenty of Lubrication
Because the anus doesn’t naturally lubricate itself, using a generous amount of lubricant is essential. Reapply as needed to reduce friction and discomfort.
8. Relax Your Body and Mind
Staying relaxed makes a big difference. Deep breathing, taking your time, and focusing on comfort can help both partners enjoy the experience more fully.
9. Try Different Positions
Everyone is different, so experimenting with positions can help you find what feels best. Some positions offer more control, while others allow you to relax more.
10. Be Flexible and Communicate
Things don’t always go perfectly, and that’s okay. If something feels uncomfortable or painful, pause and talk it through. Checking in with each other is always encouraged.
________________________________________
FAQs
Is anal sex safe without protection?
Anal sex without protection carries a higher risk of STIs. Using condoms is strongly recommended.
Can anal sex hurt?
It can be uncomfortable if rushed or done without preparation. Taking your time, using lubrication, and communicating clearly can greatly reduce discomfort.
Is anal douching required?
Not for everyone. Gentle cleaning with warm water is often enough. Over-douching can irritate the area.
How can I make anal sex more enjoyable?
Patience, communication, relaxation, and experimentation all help. Comfort should always come first.
What if there’s bleeding?
If bleeding occurs, stop immediately. Small tears can happen, but persistent bleeding should be checked by a healthcare professional.
Can you switch between anal and vaginal sex?
It’s best to change condoms or thoroughly clean any toys or body parts used to avoid spreading bacteria.
________________________________________
Final Thoughts
Exploring anal sex can be a positive and pleasurable experience when approached with patience, communication, and care. Taking time to prepare, checking in with your partner, and prioritizing safety can make all the difference.
Remember, everyone’s comfort level is different—there’s no rush and no pressure. Your sexual health and well-being always come first.
This guide is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice.
Everything you need can be found on the her4her website HERE
Thinking about exploring the world of anal sex? Approaching this intimate experience with care, open communication, and the right information can make all the difference. Anal sex can be enjoyable and rewarding for many people, especially when both partners feel prepared and comfortable. In this guide, we’ll walk through the key things to consider before getting started. Whether you’re completely new or simply looking to build on what you already know, you’ll find helpful insights to support a safe and enjoyable experience..
Anal sex
Understanding the Basics
Before we dive into the details of what to consider before trying anal sex, let’s first cover a few basics to set the stage.
What Is Anal Sex?
Anal sex involves stimulation or penetration of the anus using a penis, finger, sex toy, or other object for pleasure. It’s an intimate activity enjoyed by people of all genders and sexual orientations.
Why Do People Explore Anal Sex?
People try anal sex for many reasons—curiosity, pleasure, or simply wanting to explore something new with a partner. Whatever the reason, having open and honest conversations about expectations and comfort levels is essential.
________________________________________
Preparing for Anal Sex: What You Should Know
Now that we’ve covered the basics, let’s walk through some helpful steps to consider before trying anal sex.
1. Open Communication
Talking openly with your partner is one of the most important parts of any sexual experience. Share your interests, boundaries, and any concerns you may have. Consent and comfort should always be mutual.
Communication is the key to any healthy sexual relationship. Discussing your desires and boundaries can lead to a more satisfying experience.
2. Learn the Basics
Having the right information can help you feel more confident and relaxed. Take time to learn about anatomy, potential risks, and best practices so you know what to expect and how to stay safe.
3. Choose a Partner You Trust
Feeling safe and supported matters. A patient, understanding partner makes it easier to communicate openly and enjoy the experience together.
4. Have the Right Supplies Ready
Using plenty of water-based lubricant and condoms can make anal sex more comfortable and help reduce the risk of irritation or infection.
5. Focus on Hygiene
Good hygiene can help you feel more at ease. A shower and gentle cleaning with warm water is usually enough. If you choose to use an anal douche, do so gently and avoid harsh products that can upset the body’s natural balance.
6. Take It Slow
Going slowly helps the body adjust. Starting with a finger or small toy allows muscles to relax and makes the experience more comfortable.
7. Use Plenty of Lubrication
Because the anus doesn’t naturally lubricate itself, using a generous amount of lubricant is essential. Reapply as needed to reduce friction and discomfort.
8. Relax Your Body and Mind
Staying relaxed makes a big difference. Deep breathing, taking your time, and focusing on comfort can help both partners enjoy the experience more fully.
9. Try Different Positions
Everyone is different, so experimenting with positions can help you find what feels best. Some positions offer more control, while others allow you to relax more.
10. Be Flexible and Communicate
Things don’t always go perfectly, and that’s okay. If something feels uncomfortable or painful, pause and talk it through. Checking in with each other is always encouraged.
________________________________________
FAQs
Is anal sex safe without protection?
Anal sex without protection carries a higher risk of STIs. Using condoms is strongly recommended.
Can anal sex hurt?
It can be uncomfortable if rushed or done without preparation. Taking your time, using lubrication, and communicating clearly can greatly reduce discomfort.
Is anal douching required?
Not for everyone. Gentle cleaning with warm water is often enough. Over-douching can irritate the area.
How can I make anal sex more enjoyable?
Patience, communication, relaxation, and experimentation all help. Comfort should always come first.
What if there’s bleeding?
If bleeding occurs, stop immediately. Small tears can happen, but persistent bleeding should be checked by a healthcare professional.
Can you switch between anal and vaginal sex?
It’s best to change condoms or thoroughly clean any toys or body parts used to avoid spreading bacteria.
________________________________________
Final Thoughts
Exploring anal sex can be a positive and pleasurable experience when approached with patience, communication, and care. Taking time to prepare, checking in with your partner, and prioritizing safety can make all the difference.
Remember, everyone’s comfort level is different—there’s no rush and no pressure. Your sexual health and well-being always come first.
This guide is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice.
Everything you need can be found on the her4her website HERE
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New Members / Re: Greetings
« Last post by Jackie on December 30, 2025, 04:11:53 pm »Welcome to our forum Kitty 